I know you don’t always say it out loud, but I see it.. the long days, the quiet tears, the moments you feel like the world is moving forward while you’re stuck in the same routine. I see the way you pour everything into growing this tiny life, even when it costs you your sleep, your energy, and sometimes your sense of self.

For the first three months after Jett was born, I was home. I held our tiny human through those foggy, beautiful, exhausting days. I learned the language of his cries, memorized every sleepy expression, and poured every ounce of myself into keeping us both afloat.

It was hard. It was sacred. It changed me.

And then, as I stepped back into the real world beyond home, you stepped in – fully, bravely, and quietly into the role of a stay-at-home dad.

I’ve watched you navigate it with love and patience, even on the days I know you feel unseen. The routine is relentless. The hours stretch. The world outside keeps moving, announcing promotions and updates and big wins. And inside, you’re rocking Jett to sleep for the third time that day, wearing the same shirt, reheating the same coffee, holding it all together.

It’s hard. And it’s okay to admit that it’s hard.

Maybe you look around and feel like you’re not “progressing,” like you’ve hit pause on your own life while everyone else is chasing dreams and milestones. But from where I stand, you are doing something far more powerful.

You are growing a human being. You are creating a safe space, not just in your body, but in your heart. You are showing up every single day, even when it feels monotonous or thankless and that matters more than anything happening outside these four walls.

I know the days feel repetitive. I know you question if you’re doing “enough.” But let me remind you: you are doing the most important job in the world.

You are building a bond our child will carry for a lifetime. You are laying the foundation for trust, love, and security and you’re doing it with every kick you feel, every whispered song, every moment you choose patience and presence, even when you’re running on empty.

You are not behind. You are exactly where you’re meant to be: showing up for our baby in the most powerful, unseen ways.

And I want you to know – I see you. I admire you. I’m so proud of you.

This season won’t last forever, but the love you’re giving right now? It will echo for a lifetime. Our baby may not understand it yet, but one day, they’ll know what an incredible father he has.

With love,

Your partner, your teammate, your biggest supporter