Dear Mamas,

There’s a special kind of exhaustion that comes from being everything… to everyone at work, at home, and in between. If you’re a working mom who feels like the weight of the world is resting on your shoulders, this post is for you.

Maybe you’re the one who remembers the appointments, signs the permission slips, folds the laundry.. You’re the first to rise and often the last to rest. You show up for your job like it’s your only role, then come home and show up again.. as chef, counselor, and project manager. And somehow, in all that, you’re expected to keep smiling, stay grateful, and not miss a beat.

You are not imagining it. You are carrying more than your share. And it’s okay to feel tired. It’s okay to feel frustrated. It’s okay to say, “I need help.”

Some days, I fantasize about walking away.

Not because I don’t love my family, but because I’m so tired of feeling like I’m doing it all ALONE.

If you’re a working mom juggling deadlines, dinner, daycare drop-offs, and the mental gymnastics of keeping everything afloat… t I see you because I am you.

Motherhood isn’t meant to be a solo act, especially not when you’re balancing a career and the emotional labor of running a home. Yet, so many moms silently take on the brunt of it, because it feels easier than asking or because asking hasn’t led to change.

If you’re a working mom, you already know what I mean. You’re clocking in for your job while managing the invisible workload at home — remembering doctor appointments, keeping track of school events, planning meals, calming meltdowns, folding laundry, managing finances, or the nights I spend awake, planning tomorrow before today has even ended. And then somehow still finding a smile when your child needs you most.

And sometimes, I look over at my partner and feel frustrated. Because his 100% just doesn’t look like mine.

I’ve had to face this hard truth: multitasking doesn’t come naturally to him. Like many men, he’s more linear in his approach: one task at a time, with full focus. Meanwhile, I’m over here spinning ten plates while bouncing a baby on my hip and answering work emails. It’s not that he doesn’t care. It’s that he often doesn’t see what I see. He doesn’t anticipate, doesn’t juggle, doesn’t feel the constant pressure to keep it all running like I do.

It’s a different wiring, and while I try to understand that, it doesn’t always make it easier to live with. Especially on the days when I want to scream, “How do you not notice everything that needs to be done?”

Motherhood is beautiful, yes. But it’s also a weighty, complicated, emotional experience. And when you’re carrying the brunt of it, with little acknowledgment or shared effort, it can make you question everything: your partnership, your worth, even your own strength.

It’s a lonely kind of tired when you feel unsupported, especially by the one person you expected to be in it with you. This is the silent struggle so many of us face but rarely speak about.

So let me speak it now, for both of us:

You are not imagining the imbalance.

You are not wrong for needing more.

You are not weak for wondering if you can keep going like this.

If that’s you, know this:

Your labor, paid and unpaid is valuable.

Your boundaries matter.

Your burnout is not a badge of honor.

Your need for support is not a weakness.

You deserve a partner in this. You deserve rest. You deserve recognition for the invisible load you carry daily.

If no one has told you lately: You are doing an incredible job, even if it feels like no one sees it. But you see it. And I see you, too.

Motherhood.. especially for those of us also building careers is beautiful, yes. But it’s also heavy. And no one should be expected to carry so much without support.

If no one else sees how much you do, I do. If no one else hears your quiet cries for help, I hear you. You deserve partnership, not just presence. You deserve to feel held and not just needed.